[Editor’s Note: unusually for me, Kay was able to provide a transcript of her presentation to TBN Online on 14th May. Rather than reinvent the wheel, I thought you’d relish the opportunity to read the presentation in her own words, and rewatch the video. Lex.]
Hi everyone – I’m Kay.
I’m a Rapid Transformational Therapist and Hypnotherapist.
One of our fellow TBN members, Julie Sharp did a brilliant presentation a couple of weeks ago about hypnosis, so I won’t repeat what was said there, but, if you haven’t seen it I highly recommend you go back and watch it as it was a wonderful explanation of what hypnosis is and the ways in which we work.
Now as Julie explained, up until the age of about 7 our brains run at a lower vibration / conscious level called Theta. Now in normal adult everyday life your brain goes through a state of theta twice a day. Just as you are dropping off to sleep and just as you are waking up. And this is the brainwave you enter into during hypnosis.
But as a child from birth up until about 6 or 7 you are in that vibrational state permanently whilst you are awake. Now this is where nature is incredible, because as a child there is so much to learn and absorb. Just learning the social norms and etiquette need to fit in with family life, run into hundreds, if not thousands – let alone learning to walk, run, talk, numbers, reading, writing etc.
So being in Theta brainwave is absolutely crucial to aid our development. There’s a reason that children are often referred to as sponges, because they do absorb everything from their environment, due to this lower vibrational frequency that they live their lives in.
Now I want you just to imagine a head, and that head has a lid on top of it. Just like a jar or a tin. Now as we grow older this lid closes, letting far less “stuff” in. However, as a child, up to the age of 7 this is permanently open – open and letting everything in. And this opening has little or no filter. It has little or no filter in two ways. It doesn’t filter out what it will and will not take in and believe – it takes in almost everything – and it has no filter for who puts things in. Anyone can – be that parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, teachers, peers, bullies – anyone.
And because we are absorbing these in that theta brainwave, they become downloaded into our subconscious mind. Now, most of what goes in is great and positive and good, but not all of it is (photo). What about that teacher that says you’ll never amount to anything, or you could do better, despite you trying your hardest? What about that bully that calls you ugly and tells you no-one likes you?
Whoever and whatever these were, they got absorbed, downloaded by your subconscious mind and our lives can become a printout of these very subconscious programs. These downloads or programs are often referred to as “limiting beliefs”
The way I often describe limiting beliefs to people is they are like a tag we put on ourselves as a child, such as I’m not good enough, that will never be available to me, I don’t fit in and it will always be like this. Hence the name “limiting”, because if we continue to wear these tags and believe these tags, they can limit our adult lives hugely.
When I was about 9 years old my Dad looked at a photo of me taken when I was 5, and I remember him looking wistfully at this photo, sighing and saying
“where’s that lovely little girl gone?”
I remember feeling devastated –
“what, now I’m 9, my Dad doesn’t like me anymore?” “What have I done wrong?”
I interpreted what he said through my 9-year-old spectacles. Viewing it, hearing it through those immature lenses. Many years later we were sat chatting and I happened to mention this event and how it had upset me and he laughed and said “Oh no, I didn’t mean it like that. I just looked at a photo of you and thought to myself where have all the years gone, as you looked o young and small”.
But, for 20 years I had carried that limiting belief – that tag. It was firmly attached to me “I was nicer when I was little and everyone liked me then, but not now” When in actual fact through discussing it openly with my dad, I realised that my immature 9-year-old spectacle lenses had completely misread his innocent comment.
Now, not all comments are innocent like my dad’s. Some can be very harmful and hurtful, and compound that with viewing them through childhood spectacles, and you’ve got something that can become very damaging.
But, if I asked you to still wear the spectacles you wore when you were a young child – you’d say “No, I won’t be able to see anything”
Would you run your current high spec laptop off of software that was developed 30 years ago?
What if I said you could go to a fabulous optician who would make you a pair that would help you see clearly for perhaps the first time in decades?
What limiting beliefs could be removed. What tags could be cut off and thrown in the bin. What wonderful new installs could be downloaded?
By using hypnosis, it enables us to go back and review these limiting beliefs, look at how they developed, which can often be buried deep in our subconscious and it enables us to delete them and install fabulous new programs and downloads in as short a period as 21 days.
Before, I finish I ask you to just imagine what your life could look like without those tags still attached. Without those “limiting beliefs”, whether they be about money, not feeling good enough, relationships – forming them and maintaining them, feelings of anxiety and stress, hopelessness – whatever they may be – and just imagine being free of them.
Because this is perfectly possible – and how do I know this – I know this, because this was me, for over 40 years – wearing a wardrobe full of tags and those spectacles from age 7.
But, through RTT and hypnotherapy I understood – finally – that I was not responsible for the programming I picked up in the “download years” of my childhood – BUT – I was 100% in charge of installing the upgrades. And that’s exactly what I did, in less than a 3-month period – and that’s what has led me to be here with you today.
The well-known illustrator Emily McDowell says
“Finding yourself is not really how it works. You aren’t a ten-pound note in last winters coat. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people’s opinions and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid, that became your beliefs about who you are. ‘Finding yourself’ is actually returning to yourself – your true self.”
So, just to finish I want to leave you with a quote by the wonderful author C.S.Lewis who wrote
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”